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Saturday, February 28, 2015

Gut check, reality check for black women!! Wake the hell up!!

What's disturbing are the dismissive comments from black women under the article. Bougieblackgirl is on point about almost everything. It's so sad seeing black women dismiss an article of her blatant explaining, with PROOF of how all the men are black and all the women are white, and that women's rights and black rights are not for us.

Sometimes I feel am I wasting my time going so hard for black women, when most of them don't even care or want this type of protection? I'm seeing memes where black women reblog them, and then on the other hands getting articles written from black women, telling black women to shut up and stop complaining about being abused and mistreated in society. Are you kidding me? Why am I even wasting my time and energy on a severely damaged group of women. Black women are beyond damaged to the point of know repair. I will now refer to these women as DBR's just as I do black men like them and others.

Where is this solidarity amongst the black female community? WHERE????

Black women stop begging acceptance: Some are still surprised by Patricia Arquette’s and John Legend’s Oscar speeches.


Images via screen shot 

Last night at the Oscars, Patricia Arquette and John Legend made acceptance speeches that solely focused on their interests. Some Black women are upset. Patricia Arquette focused on equal pay for White women, even though Black women, other women of color and LGBTQ people of color make less than them. John Legend’s speech largely focused on the plight of Black men’s imprisonment, even though Black women are incarcerated at a disproportional rate and suffer from both institutionalized racism and sexism. I understand why some are upset. Both could have used their platforms to highlight the plight of everyone who has suffered from injustice, but they didn’t. This is not new.
During her acceptance speech Arquette said, “To every woman who gave birth. To every tax payer and citizen of this nation, we have fought for everybody else’s equal rights. It’s our time to have wage equality once and for all. And equal rights for women in the United States of America.”

 Back stage during a question and answer session with reporters, Arquette later went on to specify that she was specifically talking about White women when she said, “It is time for all the women in America and the men who love women and all the gay people and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.” She was basically saying we gave you people some crumbs. Be grateful! We will ignore that Black women make $.64 for every White man’s dollar and you colored people must help White women, like herself get richer. That’s what I got from it.

 During John Legend’s speech he said, “We know that right now the struggle for freedom and justice is real. We live in the most incarcerated country in the world. There are more black men under correctional control today than were under slavery in 1850. When people are marching with our song, we want to tell you that we are with you, we see you, we love you, and march on.” His statement is correct, but once again we must ask what about Black women because we obviously don’t exist.

Read: Black women and girls killed by the police

While many find these statements problematic, I do not. Years ago we were told, “All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men.” Let me say this one more time for the cheap seats. Years ago we were told, “All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men” and some of us haven’t learned it yet. During every single civil rights movement, Black women’s issues have always ignored by Black men and White women. However, Black women have continued to work on the behalf of these groups and things have not changed.

Read: Wage Gap Hits African-American, Latina Women Hardest, Report Shows 

I can’t blame White women or Black men any more. It is our fault because some of us suffer from inferiority complexes. Some Black women are begging  for acknowledgement because they believe we need validation from the beneficiaries of White supremacy and patriarchy. We want acceptance and love. We hold out hope that one day we will be rewarded for our one-sided efforts. The reality is it has been centuries, and Black women still haven’t been accepted. In fact, both groups largely benefit from Black women’s degradation and free labor. They’ve been two of the main groups who have used, mocked, and ignored Black women. These groups are not doing it on purpose, but they are inherently invested in Black women’s failure and preoccupation with their issues. It maintains their social and economic status in our society’s racist and sexist hierarchy while Black women stay at the bottom.

“White females comprised 49% of the prison population compared to 22% black females. However, the imprisonment rate for black females (113 per 100,000) was twice the rate of white females (51 per 100,000).” Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Prisoners in 2013

I believe we need to let go of this need for recognition of Black women’s issues by groups who wouldn’t spit on us if we were on fire. If you need to be unified with someone, find like-minded Black men and White women individuals who are willing to reciprocate. If they aren’t, move on! Legend and Arquette are looking out for their own interests. Who can blame them? They are fighting for a seat at the table. Instead, Black women must build our table. We are a force. As the world’s most overused cliché goes, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Black women, you have marched, fought and some have died for them for centuries and nothing has come of it. Isn’t it time to move on and become self-focused?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

The continuous erasure of black women in the media and society

Someone on a forum said "Biracial women are replacing black women". I feel guilty for writing that person off with my pro-black girl stance, but they had a valid point and here's my reason why.

Recently, there was a debacle between Guliana Rancic and Zendaya Coleman during the Golden Globe awards. As you all know the popular show on E called "Fashion Police" minus Joan Rivers who's passed, in which Guiliana is a part of, do segments where they judge celebrities outfits. I guess she was trying to hard to replace Joan Rivers who also has said some ignorant things, but for some reason got a pass for it.

During one of the segments, Guiliana decided to say something about Zendaya's faux locs, it's not even her hair or texture, but they decided they didn't like the look. Now ironically Zendaya has been on Fashion Police before, and I just found it interesting, but that doesn't have anything to do with this topic.

Guiliana said:

“I feel like she smells like patchouli oil or maybe weed,” Rancic said on Monday.

Now that does seem ignorant and narrow minded to say something like this about a hairstyle culturally connected to black people. I found it ignorant and tasteless and she was doing too damn much trying to fill the Joan Rivers role. She and Kathy Griffin who also said something about her hair.

My issue is not with Zendaya. I believe her to be amazing and very inspiring for young black girls on a channel with very seldom diversity. My issue is with society and the black community.

It took a clearly biracial black woman, and yes make no mistake she is biracial...

But it took a clearly biracial black woman in order for society to empathize with black women's hair, bodies and features being mocked. It's really sad to be honest with you. You know why it's sad? Because there have been articles, social media rants, and posts by plenty of monoracial dark skin black women over the years being vocal about the discrimination against our hair, bodies, skin tone, and features. Yet when these black women were vocal about it, the most they got was "STFU and stop complaining". I recently posted an article from a dark skin black woman saying the exact thing, telling black women to shut up and stop complaining.

Like how can we not complain when we're crapped on 24/7 in society by our own race, other black women and typical white society? Why should a group as oppressed in many ways as us be freaking silent about being discriminated against and abused? I think people must have lost their damn minds.

Lets talk about all the celebrities that came to give her the "hero" badge as if this was some groundbreaking move that no one has had the courage to speak out on...


And **rolling my eyes** at questlove, wasn't he the one defending Iggy Azaelea?

But it's just infuriating to me that people can empathize with a biracial woman woman wearing kinky braided faux locs over an actual black woman with kinky hair texture like Viola Davis being discriminated against.

Wasn't Whoopie Goldberg who's been wearing dreads all of her life the butt of everyone's joke for her features and hair?

Lets talk about how a visibly black looking Blue Ivy Carter, a damn baby was ridiculed by grown ass people for the natural kinky hair that grows out of her head, chemical free and untouched like her beautiful Auntie Solange? Lets talk about that? None of these celebrities came to her defense when she was being bullied, a damn child!!

The same can be said for Gabby Douglas who was on a public platform being bullied for her hair, and not one black person, white person, or celebrity came to her defense or lauded her for defending herself.

And we can't get mad at dark skin black women or monoracial black women for side eyeing documentaries like Light Girls or the cries of biracial women because it's obvious people are going to empathize with the pretty light girl tears no matter what. And lets face it, dark skin, monoracial black women sit at the very bottom of society's totem pole, even globally.

I'm just so disturbed at this blatant erasure of black women in the media. A light skin biracial woman being the spokesperson for black women and black features when for freaking decades black women have been crying and screaming out loud for people stop discriminating against us. What happens when black women speak out about erasure and racism or anti-black woman beliefs?

Yall know what happens, ask Azelia Banks...

AzeAlia Banks basically has said and reiterated what Zendaya did, about the disrespect to things associated with black culture. Sure Azealia has made some problematic tweets and I question her mental state but the message was still there. If Kanye West problematic ass can still speak on black issues so can Azealia Banks. And we'll get to that buckin and coonin negro in the next post.

It's just so frustrating how black women are erased like this, first Dominican Zoe Zaldana playing Nina Simone:

They also made her wear a prosthetic butt, like are you serious? I'm just so saddened for black women, this is a issue that seems to not be going anywhere, anytime soon.

Not to take away from Zendaya and what she accomplished addressing the racist comments from Guiliana but society will immediately side with her do to our colorist/light skin privilege culture in America and in the black community. A dark skin black woman complaining like this would not be taken seriously and people would be annoyed and bashing her. Lets be real.

Black women are being erased and it seems like other black women don't even give a damn themselves, it's so disturbing to see this happen right before our eyes.

Sunday, February 22, 2015

This your black community: Dark skin blogger basically says dark skin women need to shut up and stop complaining

**sigh** I've seen this before, on many sites and almost everywhere. Dark skin women need to shut up. Dark skin women complain too much. Dark skin women this, dark skin women that. You have the dark skin women like her who feels embarrassed for the world to know that we're a targeted group. She's an ass backward thinker who believes since people already think so low of us, we need to conform in order for them to stop thinking low of us because 'Please be nice so deys can like us dark girls". It's so disgusting, seeing other dark skin women dismiss the cries of dark skin women just to appease the higher table. When I say higher table, I mean those who are sitting at the top meaning dark skin black men, white and non-black women, white men, and so forth.

See we only dump this "Shut up and be quiet" logic on dark skin black women (mainly black women in general). We're so annoyed at the idea of treating black women like human beings that it irritates us. I mean we are literally fighting against having to respect another human being. Being seen as someone who needs empathy is not being seen as a charity case, she's so ignorant. This is what black women need. We're the only group on the planet people don't give a damn about, even when it comes to other black women. Now when people do it's a problem? Is it a charity case to care about black men and police brutality too? What about white boys stealing the black man's music? Because were all over Twitter when it came to Kendrick lamar being snubbed for grammys by Macklemore, like I'm just floored at this ignorance.

And Pharrel and Diddy do not openly date dark skin women or have a history of having a plethora of them in their music videos. Bedding a dark skin woman a making child with her like Diddy did with Kim Porter does not mean he loves dark skin black women, or black women. He can still have a complex which he does because his other love interests have all been light skin.

Pharrell only put the dark skin girl on the Marylin Monroe single promotion cover because of the backlash about not having black dark skin models on his album cover. His wife sho ain't dark skin though. 

Black women are so used to being everyone's step stool that if someone throws us a bone everyone once in a blue moon, even if it's only because we spoke up, we're content and satisfied. I follow a Tumblr page called black women confessions and you should see the amount of pitiful black women boo hooing about black men not wanting them and getting angry at the fact that other races of men approach them instead because they're so desperate for the attention of these dusty colorist negroes, it's sad. One sista made a confession talking about how a black called her pretty or said he likes black women, one lone negro and she talked about how happy she was because she thought it would never happen. I was like baby please go get you some self esteem and take them fools off that undeserving pedestal you place them on.

Some black women are so lost, it's pitiful. Then again I shouldn't have expected much from a blogger who runs a groupie site featuring women who chase after athletes or wealthy men.

 Here it is:

Thanks But I'm Not Your Charity Case: Why Sometimes We Don't Need Your Help


I've been wanting to write this blog for a long time and a recent post on Instagram actually prompted me to sit down and do so. I am a dark skinned black woman, I know -- shocker! I have been dark skinned (and black) all of my life. I have seen black women be discriminated against, bullied, disrespected and misrepresented by people of other races and people of our own. I have seen us kicked to the side, told we're not beautiful, told we are unwanted and treated as second hand citizens by the very men we march to city hall to support. I've seen it all -- but this isn't about that.
Have you ever seen [some] black women rallying on behalf of dark skinned black women when it wasn't necessary? Does it annoy you as much as it does me? While I appreciate the sentiment and the thoughts, not every issue warrants a crusade, and definitely not on my behalf. Thank you, but I'm not your charity case.
One of the recent situations was the case of Pharrell's "GIRL" album cover, which included a white woman, a spanish or asian woman and a light skin woman that people didn't realize was black. I remember black women ripping Pharrell to shreds, implying that he hates black women, despite the woman on the cover being black, him having black leads in previous videos and black women running his business dealings. Then to appease black women, he drops the album artwork for his "Marilyn Monroe" single, featuring a beautiful dark skinned Queen and women ripped him to shreds asking why he didn't name the song Dorothy Dandridge. Yes, this really happened and I'm disgusted. You see, me, I don't feel the need to be included in EVERYTHING. Not for nothing, if the girl on the cover of his "GIRL" album wasn't black, I wouldn't be entirely offended. One listen of that album tells you who it was made for and I can assure you we all know who bought it. I was versed enough in Pharrell's contributions to "urban" music to know he's showcased some of the most beautiful chocolate women in the past, so it's okay if we don't make the cover of EVERY album. It never once was implied we weren't beautiful.
There was a recent time when a young lady attempted to imply that P. Diddy did not like black women and encouraged his sons of the same thing. Diddy who has three children with Kim Porter, Diddy? Diddy who has black women holding some of the highest ranks in his company, Diddy? The young woman who made the comment suggested that because Diddy chooses to DATE light skin or mixed women, it means he does not LIKE black women. Personally, this is the dumbest misconception I've ever come across. Snapple Fact: You have the right to be attracted to whoever/whatever you please. I happen to like tall men. Are short men going to stage a revolt against me? No! If you like light skinned women with curly hair, every dark skinned natural woman is NOT going to be offended. Don't let the dummies on social media fool you. As long as you don't put down one to big up the other, I could care less about where you choose to lay your penis. Chances are, I probably wasn't attracted to you either. Who you choose to have sex with has no bearing on whether or not you appreciate the beauty of a dark skinned woman. Thanks to people of social media, that point rarely gets across.
You see, when you start these wars on social media and you go crazy on behalf of black/dark women, it's US that get hurt. It's the dark skinned woman who sees that it's not that serious that get lumped in with the people who are overly sensitive. There's a difference between discrimination and not being everyone's cup of tea and at the tender age of 30 years old, I've learned that. Why should I immediately get lumped in with people (black, white or other) who want to rally on my behalf when I didn't ask for it. No shade, but I'm a big girl, I can handle myself.
Black women are some of the strongest women I have ever encountered. No need to handle us with kid gloves. We have been through some of the WORST in history and for some of the most minuscule topics to be a crutch given to us by people who don't even have to deal with these same situations, it's annoying. No, I don't care if you don't put me on the cover of your CD and no I don't care if you date white women. I DO care if you disrespect me. Don't do that.
I am a dark skin black woman. For every person who does not accept me, 5 others do. I have been called ugly before and in the same breath, I have been called beautiful while standing in a room full of women 10 shades lighter. Do you know how many dark skinned women are killing the game? Does Lupita Nyong'o still slay? Is Naomi Campbell not the baddest model walking? Are there times when women of color are genuinely mistreated? Often. But not every time is the time. Please don't start a race war on my behalf. I do not look at the color of my skin as a hinderance and out of respect I would like for others to do the same. Thanks, but I'm not your charity case.

Sunday, February 8, 2015

The Dove love your curls commercial: Again where are the dark skin women/girls?

Anyone else find that Dove "Love your curls" commercial problematic? Like there weren’t any dark skin women in the commercial or little dark skin girls. They even had white women representing what was suppose to be curly hair (chile bye).

 Without the genetics of black people there is no such thing as a curl pattern.

They couldn’t have used the little Skai Jacksons of the world?


Yall know society doesn't like 4c hair and chocolate skin of the female gender. They believe it doesn't draw in people and brings down the value, isn't that pitiful? Because this is exactly what they do, when casting little children for commercials and shows. If they do it to adults then why wouldn't they do it to kids?

How hard was it to find 1 or 2 black women who look like this?

But I forgot they only want 3c type curls representing curly huh? Like I said, without those black genetics THERE IS NO CURL PATTERN. I'm so sick and tired of dark skin black women being exiled from everything, it annoys me. Like how can you omit the building block of the human race, the black woman? How? We're good enough for our aesthetics but when it comes time to actually incorporate us we're just too black for most of society?

Also who the hell is hating there curls? Society loves curly haired women!! Oh that's if you're 3c, that is.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Black men write book complaining about black women...again, calling themselves "IBM" Ideal black men!

So sick of this mess. The only reason they have this much entitlement is because of black women. Black women sit here and put black men on a pedestal so they can knock your behinds off of yours. And to top it off they aren't even that attractive, I don't think it's the women's fault, IT'S THEM. But no one will tell them that because they've been told they're "right" all their lives just by being black men.

So sick of black men like this running rampant.

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Thursday, January 1, 2015

Glad to See More Non-Black Men Seeing Through the Lies About Black Women.

Glad to See More Non-Black Men Seeing Through the Lies About Black Women.

The people who make careers of trashing black women in social media might not have counted on something: Critically thinking men of all races might investigate these claims to either confirm or dismiss them. You also can’t count out the increasing numbers of non-black men who are dating and marrying black women disproving all the nonsense.
One thing about the internet is that knowledge is accessible. No one has to take anyone’s word for anything anymore. So in a way, the more these cretins diss us, the more curious people become to see for themselves. Here’s one such person who did EXACTLY that.


Her site is shit most of the time, but she has a few gems like these from time to time. I've noticed this as well. I've posted the video of the Latino man asking why do black men bash black women so much, and he called them cowards and ignorant. Also during the segment on OWN regarding black women dating inter-racially they asked the white husband of a black woman why he found his wife beautiful. I don't blame white and non-black men "interested in black women" I had to put that in quotes to separate them from the racists, but I don't blame them for questioning black men. They are sitting here easily marrying and dating black women, while black men and some black women make up this long ass pointless list about why black women are so unattractive and not dating material. What you have amongst those groups of black men and women, are a collection of entitled kiddy boys and girls who believe they should be able to walk past their ideal black women every time they blink or breathe. Lord knows many black women wish it worked like that for them. Like Idris Elba with Obama's smarts would fall out of the sky everything they looked up. If you told black men that, they'd catch a damn fit and call you shallow, but it's okay if they're shallow though.

Let me stop I'm rambling into that place again. But it's shameful some white and non-black men see this foolishness for what it's worth. I've yet to see a collection of black men or black women, other than womanists speak out about the ignorance black men perpetuate about black women's images. NONE.

And I'm leave it at that.

Monday, December 22, 2014

In honor of Azelaia Banks let take a look at all the shoe shining coons who've help protect the image of Iggy shall we?



Iggy Azalea is, well, embattled. But another rapper who quickly found pop success has offered his own advice to the “Fancy” breakout star, complete with perspective that comes from 15 years in the industry.
During a brief stop in Sydney, Nelly told the city’s Daily Telegraph that Iggy should feel accomplished that artists like Eminem are taking shots at her. Calling her a “great artist” and reminding the press that he was there for the Australian rapper’s earliest recording sessions, Nelly added that he has “always been cool” with Azalea.
Mr. Country Grammar began his visit by visiting Martin Place to pay tribute to the victims of the hostage situation that unfolded at a Sydney cafe earlier this month. He will be back in the country for his series of dates with Lupe Fiasco and B.o.B., which begin
Jan. 8.

Speaking of Lupe Fiaso 


Quest Love of legendary group "The Roots"


 Interviewer: Have you weighed in on an official Song of the Summer?
I’m really caught in between, because this is what you gotta understand: I’m a DJ, and I’ve already established before on Twitter and elsewhere that you gotta know what the difference is between a good song and a bad song. Songs that I consider personally bad are also effective, and songs that I think are great don’t stick. For me, I think it’s a crime that Chromeo is not up there, because their level of pop songs — aw man, it’s everything I could ever want. It isn’t sticking. I want “Jealous” to win so bad, but it’s obvious “Fancy” is pretty much ruling the summer.
Interviewer: Are you pro- or anti-Iggy Azalea?
Here’s the thing: the song is effective and catchy as hell, and it works. Just the over-enunciation of “hold you down”? [Laughs] It makes me chuckle because all I can see is my assistant holding a brush in the mirror and singing it.
I’m caught in between. And I defend it. I see false Instagram posts like, “She said the N-word! She said the N-word!” I’ll call people out — “Yo, don’t troll.” I know you’re ready to give your 42-page dissertation on theGrio about why this is culture vulture-ism. You know, we as black people have to come to grips that hip-hop is a contagious culture. If you love something, you gotta set it free. I will say that “Fancy,” above any song that I’ve ever heard or dealt with, is a game-changer in that fact that we’re truly going to have to come to grips with the fact that hip-hop has spread its wings.

And to tell the truth, I was saying this last year, I don’t think it’s any mistake that four or five of my favorite singers are from Australia. Like between Hiatus Kaiyote, there’s a bunch I can name for you right now, but I don’t think it’s a mistake that a lot of of my favorite artists are coming from Down Under. A lot of them more soulful than what we’re dealing with now. When you think soul music and Aretha Franklin and the Baptist-born singer, that’s sort of an idea in the past. As black people, we’re really not in the church as we used to be, and that’s reflected in the songs now.

I’m not going to lie to you, I’m torn between the opinions on the Internet, but I’mma let Iggy be Iggy. It’s not even politically correct dribble. The song is effective. I’m in the middle of the approximation of the enunciation, I’ll say. Part of me hopes she grows out of that and says it with her regular dialect — I think that would be cooler. But, yeah, “Fancy” is the song of the summer.

If you're not familiar with "Lil Duval" he's a famous comedian who used to do Comic View when it was at the peak of it's popular, and multiple other things. He's also defended Iggy and asked why do black women hate Iggy. If I'm not mistaken he and a legion of other black men were beside themselves about Macklemore.


And these brothas are just scratching the surface. We're not going to talk about how BET wouldn't let Macklemore perform at the BET awards because of the Kendrick Lamar grammy situation where he won over Kendrick, but let Iggy perform despite the media trying to create Nicki as the bitter jealous black girl white society is trying to name the Queen of Hip-hop, yet Nicki still went on BET and gave them praise.

This doesn't even scratch the surface of the many online comments from every day black men defending Iggy, gay and straight while bashing black women.

And let us not forget the head shoe shining buckin, tap dancing for massa negro out of them all, T.I.

The uncle tom ring leader who started this mess to begin with by promoting the culture appropriation that is Iggy. He could have managed Azealia, he could have managed SZA, he could have managed Nicki, he could have managed many underground black female rappers, but instead he rather fly to Australia the land down under with no history of hip-hop culture, that's racist, and morph a white girl with no black experience into some southern sounding rapper when she her regular voice is your typical lily Aussie white woman. It's pretty damn gross if you ask me.

But these are the black men you all defend black women. Some of you need a spiritual cleansing sistas, because if this ain't a wake up call I don't know what is.