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Sunday, February 19, 2017

7 Unconscious Biases That Still Affect Black Women Today


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Although women from the African diaspora are scattered across the globe and belong to manyDIFFERENT cultures, many of us share similar concerns about how we are perceived. Oftentimes, these concerns have emerged as a result of the global white-washing of culture that’s spanned hundreds of years. In the Western world,unconscious biases that are affecting black women today are the result of societal and economic structures that have consistently and deliberately excluded the beliefs and needs of black women.
Historically, European-centric beauty standards have either erased black beauty trends from magazines and catwalks entirely, or else “borrowed” (read:APPROPRIATED) whatever is deemed trendiest at the time without everacknowledging the history of style. Societal norms have also made it harder for black women to fit in at work and school; research shows black girls are expelled more often than their white counterparts despite there being no evidence toSUGGESTthey behave worse. Additionally, a wide body of research shows an implicit biases in the workplace towards hiring those with names society codes as “white” overTHOSE which are typically coded as “black.”
ALTHOUGHmany would like to believe we exist in a post-racial society, research offers extensive insight into how preconceived notions of black femininity is still impeding the advancement of black females in Western society today. Implicit bias is real — and it’s something we still have to work to overcome.

1. Your Quality Of Health Care May Decline If You’re A Black Woman

Recently,NEWS emerged that the mortality rate due to cervical cancer is worse than we thought — and it also disproportionately affects black women. The same, it turns out, is true for breast cancer mortality rates: Black women suffer disproportionately. There are undoubtedly a wide variety of causes for this disparity, but it seems likely that accessibility to and implicit biases in health care treatment has something to do with it.
For example, The Robert Wood Johnson Foundation found in 2012 that Latino and African-American patients receive substantially poorer health outcomes than white American patients. What’s more,FORBES reported in 2015 that “racial and economic inequities in screening and treatment options” directly contribute to the racial differences in women’s breast cancer survival rates.

2. Black Hair Is Still Viewed Unfavorably… By Everyone

This month, afro hair company Shea Moisture joined forces with The Perception Institute to conduct “The ‘Good Hair’ Study: Explicit and Implicit Attitudes Toward Black Women’s Hair.” They created a “Hair Implicit Association Test” (IAT), which was comprised of a series of questionsDIRECTED at 4,000 men and women to see how they’d respond to black women’s hairstyles, such as braids, dreads and afros. Research proved that across all demographics, “a majority of people, regardless of race and gender, hold some bias towards women of color based on their hair.“

3. Black Girls Are Punished More In School, Even Though They’re Not Any Worse Behaved Than Other Students

In schools, black girls are suspected of worse behavior even when they aren’t out of line — and they’re often wrongly punished for it. A 2014 report from the NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund and the National Women’s Law Center found that black girls are the most likely group to be suspended from school, even though evidence points to the fact they are no worse behaved than other students.

4.Black Women Are Often Judged IRL According To Pervasive Media Stereotypes

Media heavily influences where these implicit biases come from. As race-vlogger and MTV presenter Franchesca Ramsey notes in the video above, limited portrayals of black women in TV and film have long been relegated to a selection of repetitive, one-dimensional stereotypes. This lack of representation has a direct impact on how black women are viewed offscreen, too. Ramsey points out that "The Jezebel” (the over-sexualized woman), “The Mammy” (the unattractive, dark-skinned maid or slave), and “The Sassy Black Friend” (this one is self-explanatory) all have their roots in the racist depiction and treatment of black women during during the Jim Crow era and beyond — and still crop up far too often in mainstream media today

5. Black Women Are Under More Pressure To Appear Competent In The Workplace

Double discrimination occurs when women of color face biases unique to their racial or ethnic background in addition to their gender. Joan Williams a professor at the University of California Hastings College of the Law examined implicit biases black women working in science, technology, and engineering jobs experienced and discovered that 77 percent of scientists who were black women said they felt as if they are under more intense pressure to perform well at work, compared to 66 percent of scientists who were women overall. Said Williams according to CNNMONEY in 2015, “Black women often feel like they can’t make a single mistake. They would lose all credibility.”
In a proverbial nutshell, this is why we need intersectional feminism.

6. Black Women Are At A Double Disadvantage In The Hiring Process

Not only do black women face pressure to make their blackness more palatable at work, but they also struggle to get their foot in the door in the first place. It’s a one-two punch here: First,CONSIDERa widely-cited studyPUBLISHED by theNational Bureau of Economic Research (NBER) in 2003. Using 5,000 fake American resumes, the study found that resumes with white-sounding names were 50 percent more likely to be called for initial interviews than those with black-sounding ones. (This is just one of many studieswhich have found the same results, by the way.) Then, consider another, recent study that found interview call-backs for a set of5,000 job applications increased substantially when names coded as “female” were changed to just their initials, thereby making theAPPLICATIONS “gender-blind.” Knowing the results of both of these studies, you can see how black women might end up in the crossfire of double discrimination once again.

7. Black Women Are Left On The Shelf In Online Dating

ONLINE DATINGhas long been considered a racial minefield for many black women. But whereas unconscious racial biases were often discovered by talking to potential partners online (which was traumatic enough), many sites now allow users to openly state their dating preferences for other races. And let’s not forget thatDATAspanning more than 25 million people across six years gathered by OK Cupid and released in 2014 revealed that black women were the least desirable group on the siteACCORDING to its users.
So: How do you fight implicit bias?START with something like the Complicity Cleanse. It’s not easy, but a concerted effort towards dismantling your own implicit biases can make a real difference.

I see what KSC meant when she said black women contribute to the oppression of black women...

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So I made a post recently on my blog, yall know I have a Tumblr page (changed the name though), but I made a post about how I wish people would stop only appreciating black women for being strong or for our aesthetic appeal. I feel like if that's all we're worth to people then they really don't appreciate black women to begin with. If we're only good for people's consumption then what happens when it's time for us to need somebody? When we're not beautiful? When we're not strong? When we're not fighting? We're devalued and seen as disposable, we're worthless to these same people.

And guess what happened again? The same thing that happened when I called black women out about their dedication to other groups  instead of investing in the black women with the same passion and care. They got mad and tried to flip the issue around as something good for us, as something that works for us.

Why do black women think our oppression and labor is going to liberate us one day? The belief that if we cater to our oppressors enough, or if we just roll with the punches no matter how bad they hurt, somehow some way we're receive trickle down liberation. We think so low of ourselves and so high of others that we'll just bow down and let the dices roll? It's funny we don't do this when it's time to fight against racism, we don't go "Oh well we just have accept that white people are higher than us on the social ladder" no we fight against it no matter what, be it in groups or individually no matter if we have support or not.

So why don't we do the same when it comes to addressing misogynoir, intraracism towards black women and how black women are used and abused? Why is there such a content mindset with how things are for black women to the point of being fine with it? Something is psychologically wrong with black women, and I'm not taking that back.

Are black women content with abuse and confinement? What is wrong in the minds of some black women? All I said was we need to appreciate black women across a broad spectrum like we do other groups, not just when we're oiled up and naked or saving the world. That's dehumanization. You see people as human beings when you allow them to have flaws, not be perfect, or mess up, something people don't do for black women.

It's either we be sexy for consumption, or let people use our backs for their own liberation and consumption. When we don't offer ourselves up for consumption we're dehumanized, demoralized, berated, and cast to the side like yesterday's trash. That's all I was trying to say and many handmaidens and their kangs got offended. I told one of them "Maybe you're guilty of, treat black women better if you're offended" and she got so mad, antagonizing me and trying to prove and reassure herself how right she was and how I was generalizing. That hit dog hollered so loud, and it proved that not even other black women care for black women.
Two of my followers made some awesome commentary about how black women are treated within the community and society:

“This boils down to them never seeing us as human with various attributes, personalities, emotions, thoughts, disabilities, interests, sensitivities, faults etc.
Their default view is to see/ “love” us as these “Strong/Motherly” overly rarified consumable objects of lust and remain completely ignorant to how dehumanizing it is for black women.” -  mysticalcoffeequeen on black women only being seen as strong or for aesthetics

Black women brushing aside our/their abuse and oppression like this, means that they contribute to the oppression of black women and girls. Constantly defending their oppressors or seeing nothing wrong with the oppression is why black women still continue to suffer today.

Super mammies with be the death of black women.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

The myth of black love, are they right about black love being a myth?

Two posts from two people:

"I just want to say that some black folks do ACTUALLY date outside of their race because none of these black folks ever checks for them... so what they gone do? Die alone because they can't experience black love?
I wholeheartedly feel that way. Like I would not be shocked if I don't end up with a black man... even though that's my goal.... that's the motherfucking wave..... but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen"

The "Myth" of Black Love
" Let me start off by saying that I got inspiration for this post from another post about the disillusionment of a black woman about dating within the black community, expressing that too many black men aren’t attracted to black women and ideally go for non black women. Which got me thinking that with all this recent promotion of black couples via social media, I feel like we can’t just focus on the pros of black love, but we must also bring to light the darker, behind the scenes reality for black women finding love among black men who directly and indirectly express their refusal to be with black women.
I get it, the praise for black love has to do with unifying the black community by saying, “See, black men and women DO love each other.” And yes, I believe it. I don’t believe the photos I see of black couples on social media are fake or anything, but can we also bring to light female black singles and how their singleness is affected by the presence of misogyny noir and anti blackness among black men? Dating in general is hard, but imagine how dating is as not only a black person, but a black woman who does not fit Eurocentric beauty standards (such as light skin, light eyes, loose hair, slim facial features, etc.) Often times I commonly see these types of “conventionally” attractive black women paired up with black men more so than mono-racial looking black women - I wonder why?
As a mono-racial, dark skinned black woman who grew up in predominantly white spaces, from my own experiences on and offline, I can confidently say that a lot of black don’t consider me to necessarily be their “ideal” type based off black and white standards of beauty, and I feel like black and white standards of beauty go hand in hand for obvious reasons having to do with cultural assimilation, a history of colonization, and so on. Which brings me right to another point I’d like to make about looks equating to superiority or inferiority. Sure, you can’t judge a book by the cover yet too often black men do so, falling prone to the stereotypes associated with non black ethnicities of women - so it’s not just about non black women meeting a Eurocentric standard of beauty easier than most black women. It’s also about how black men view them as less “controlling” than black women, therefore more agreeable and “nicer” JUST due to ethnicity and ethnicity alone. Mind you, I’m not saying black men who date outside their ethnicity all have agendas behind their attractions, BUT I am still iffy about their reasonings for “racial preferences.” I think now is a good time to quote myself from the post about the disillusioned black woman:
“And whenever I see a black woman who exclusively dates outside the black community I feel like it’s not for the same reasons black men often do it - for black women who either often or only date non black men I feel like I have more understanding for them because of the treatment they receive from black men who often have no issue with voicing how undesirable black women are to them. That gives black women more authority of their love lives by expanding their dating pool (since the lot of black women go for black mates) vs. black men who often go for non black women for superficial, anti black reasons rooted in sexism. So when a black women says I don’t date black dudes I don’t see it as excusable but at the same time I understand her reasons for doing so more than a black man refusing to date black women. I feel like black women are often looking for genuine love, the kind of love too many black men can’t give them because of their racial baggage, while said black men are oftentimes looking for trophies to use to spite black women and make non black men “envy” them for “stealing” their women.”
You read it right. I do feel like a lot of black men aren’t capable of loving black women the way they need to be loved, which has to do with seeing their blackness in the same way that they see their own and not letting gender be the deciding factor concerning superiority vs. inferiority, especially if said black women don’t fit the Eurocentric standard of beauty. I will say that non black men aren’t the “golden ticket” of black women in order for them to find love - there’s undeniably issues of anti blackness and sexism in all communities. But at the same time since non black men aren’t hit the hardest by racism, since anti blackness is global, they do have less baggage from that and less pressure to socially conform in my eyes. Because really, I believe more non black men are attracted to black women more so than they let on, it’s just that their cultural ties such as pleasing family and community hold them back from acting on this attraction confidently.
We really do need to have a real conversation about misogyny noir alongside “black love.” Because part of the way black men are going to love black women unconditionally has to do with an awareness of their own social conditioning and their own perceptions of black womanhood."

 I think it's time for black women to stop waiting on that mythical unicorn aka their black kang knight in shining armor because he's not coming. Also if black women and men were meant to be then why aren't black men knocking down the doors of black women like black women are doing them? When are black women going to wake up and understand black men don't want them, like they do black men? And when they do it's always black women that fall into some misogynistic standard that they as black men don't want to be held to, or they get mad about it.

I'm tired of it all. Black women need to be with whomever they find happiness with and it doesn't have to be a black man. The blind loyalty thing is going to leave a lot of black women, lonely, sick or dead.

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Fredrick Douglass's treatment of his wife Ann Murray Douglass proves black men have always been this way!!!


Anna who was born free, met a Frederick when he slave, she sold many of her belongings to money to help him escape and then moved to NYC with him where they got married. When he started touring with and working with white abolitionists, he started treating her like shit because she was illiterate. (He didn’t have any problem taking money from her to escape tho.)
Then homeboy got bold as hell and moved in a white woman in his wife’s house.   Then the first white moves out and he moves another white woman who stayed there for months at a time for 20 fucking years. After Anna died when married a white woman a year later.
Happy Black History Month.
Read all about it below. 
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This month, the editors of the Oxford African American Studies Center will be providing us with insights into black history and culture. To go along with this year’s Black History Month theme “From Slavery to Freedom: Africans in the Americas,” today we will look at Anna Murray Douglass. This article is by Leigh Fought. Two weeks ago we looked at Frederick Douglass and last week we looked at the Freedman’s Savings and Trust Company.
(b. c. 1813; d. 4 August 1882), the first wife of Frederick Douglass. The enigmatic first wife of Frederick Douglass, Anna Murray Douglass has been misunderstood and misrepresented by historians as well as by her husband’s associates since he first rose to fame in 1842. Her early life, including her birth and parentage, remain sparsely documented. Most historians agree that she was the daughter of Bambarra and Mary Murray, emancipated slaves from Denton in Caroline County, Maryland. As a young adult she lived in Baltimore, Maryland, working as a housekeeper and laundress in white homes. Despite refusing to demonstrate reading or writing skills throughout her life, she clearly had some interest in self-improvement in her youth because she first met Frederick Douglass, then known as Frederick Bailey, through mutual friends at the East Baltimore Mental Improvement Society, an organization of free blacks who promoted literacy.
The two had met by the late summer of 1838, when Anna sold many of her belongings to help Frederick purchase the train tickets for his escape. She also sewed the sailor uniform he wore as a disguise and accumulated the necessary items for starting a household. Once Frederick reached his destination in New York City, he wrote for her to join him. The Reverend James W. C. Pennington performed their marriage ceremony, and the young couple moved to New Bedford, Massachusetts, first using the last name of Johnson but soon changing it to Douglass.
The first years of the marriage appear to have been congenial. Anna borefour children—Rosetta, Lewis Henry, Charles Remond, and Frederick Douglass Jr.—during their residence in New Bedford. While Douglass searched for jobs on the city’s docks, Anna kept house on a small budget. When the family moved to Lynn, Massachusetts, she also took in piecework from the local shoe factories and saved everything that her husband sent to her while he toured for the American Anti-Slavery Society.
Strain began to manifest in the Douglass marriage once Frederick became involved in the abolitionist movement. He spent a good deal of time away from home giving lectures, including two years in Europe. Most of his white associates expressed disdain for his wife, at their most generous referring to Anna as a poor intellectual match for her husband, and treated her like a servant in her own home. They, like historians, have focused on Anna’s illiteracy and stoicism to bolster their arguments. Anna, however, had little time for intellectual pursuits while running a household and raising a family with little help from her husband.
By the late 1840s Anna lost much of her emotional support system. Her daughter, Rosetta, was away at school in Albany, New York; and her friend and household helper, Harriet Bailey, had married and moved to Springfield, Massachusetts. Meanwhile, her husband toured England, where rumors spread about the attention lavished on him by the English ladies. After his return in 1847 Douglass moved the family to Rochester, New York, taking Anna away from the small but active black community of which she had been a part in Lynn. Shortly thereafter she suffered the indignity of having the British reformer Julia Griffiths move into the Douglass home, which caused a storm of controversy alleging Frederick’s infidelity with Griffiths. The departure of Griffiths was followed by the arrival of Ottilie Assing, who installed herself in the Douglass home for several months out of the year over the next twenty years. For much of her life Anna lived isolated from supportive African American companionship while hosting a string of white abolitionists who could barely conceal their disdain for her. Only the extended stays of Rosetta and her children and the companionship of Louisa Sprague, Rosetta’s sister-in-law who lived in the Douglass home as a housekeeper, relieved Anna’s loneliness.
Nevertheless, Anna understood her husband’s role in fighting slavery and her role as his helpmate. She took pride in her husband’s appearance and accomplishments and in keeping a well-ordered home. She continued to take an active part in operation of the household, even after Douglass had become wealthy enough to hire servants. After Anna’s death her work was informally recognized by black women, who continued to refer to the home at Cedar Hill, Uniontown, D.C., as her home, and by Rosetta, who wrote a memoir of Anna’s life and named her eldest daughter Annie. Even Douglass’s second wife, Helen Pitts, did nothing to denigrate Anna’s memory during her own marriage and life at Cedar Hill.
Rosetta’s memoir, My Mother as I Recall Her, deserves particular attention as one of the only surviving documents about Anna Murray Douglass. Rosetta celebrated Anna’s work, placing her mother squarely within the nineteenth-century “cult of domesticity.” Rosetta used Anna as a symbol of the equality of black women within that sphere during an era in which black women were portrayed as either the sexually promiscuous “Jezebel” or the maternal caretaker “Mammy” of white families. On the other hand, not only did Anna actively support the end of slavery by aiding her husband’s flight to freedom and allowing him to pursue antislavery work but also she maintained an impeccable home and preserved her own dignity and that of her marriage in the face of white assault. In Rosetta’s narrative Anna emerges as a model of middle-class womanhood.
Douglass, for his part, recognized the role that Anna played in his life. During his first visit to England he maintained a cordial distance from his enthusiastic female admirers, and he defended his wife when anyone suggested that she was not a fit mate for him. After his return home in 1847 Anna conceived their last child, Annie, and Douglass risked his own arrest to reenter the United States to comfort Anna in the wake of that child’s death ten years later. When Anna died in 1882, he fell into a depression that he described as being the darkest moment of his life. Nevertheless, he seemed less than concerned for Anna’s feelings in bringing into their home two white women with whom he was rumored to be sexually involved. He also married a younger white woman within a year of Anna’s death, much to the chagrin of his family and both the black and white communities.
For much of her life, Anna suffered from various ailments, particularly headaches that made her ill. In her later years she suffered from a stroke that confined her to a wheelchair and her bedroom. In August 1882 she died shortly after having a second stroke.

Friday, February 3, 2017

Black women stop supporting black male celebrities!!!

All black men in the entertainment business, from athletes to actors hate black women until proven innocent, that's my stance on this.

So if any of you have kept up with the social atmosphere, you'd know that BET premiered a little biography of the group New Edition. It starred L.uke J.ames and some other up and coming artists/actors to play the lives of  the men of old school group New Edition.

All of the black women of America were celebrating these men, lusting after them, calling them black boy magic, how fine black men are, how they love them, and how they are why black women love black men.

But not me, and it's never going to be me. I kind of picked that vibe up from them to begin with. The thing is one of them went to a HBCU (the one who played Bobbi Brown), which is common to see to be honest with you. You know so called black men with knowledge of black history and culture, openly hate black women.

But here are some tweets from two of the cast members exposing their hate for black women...

And the other one who played Ralph

Crazy how he said he won't date ghetto black girls but he's intrigued by the white girl twerking in the sun drop commercial and thick white girls. Aesthetics associated with black girls from the hood/ghetto.

Funny things is it's always the dark skin one's, the one's black women stay putting on a pedestal and blowing the heads up of, bashing and berating black women. I'm sure most of us already know about L.uke J.ames obsession with white women.

Meanwhile the two lighter complexion one's have no history of bashing black women, and black women absolutely despise light skin black men, including light skin black women.

Sunday, January 22, 2017

The old Million woman march centered the issues of black women, until super mammies took over...

Here's a comment from one of the amazing people I follow on Tumblr...

"Glad to hear that they stayed on the subject and spoke about women’s issues cause I heard black women who spoke Saturday didn’t do this at the women’s march.smdh."
This is absolutely true. Back them black women had no problem centering black women's issues. Surely black women were still prioritizing black men over every other black person, for some reason that's never changed, but at least when it came time to actually see about black women, those black women did take the time out to center black women's issues.

 I even saw a comment from a black woman who said I marched because I care about equality and a list of things that had nothing to do with black women. I was so befuddled to see the few black women there who did attend the women's march recently, center everything but black women's issues.

On top of that recently I told black women that I don't see how they can march with a group of women who do not care about them, and how I refuse to let my oppressors (white women) utilize my voice and power for her own gain. And this black woman on my Tumblr got so mad at me and told me "Look I care about black women too, but" yeah she put but meaning some b.s. was going to come afterwards and it sis. She told me I was policing how she wanted to do her activism and that I will not tell her how to march or whatever and that if she wants to care about everyone then she can.

She can, but I won't. I refuse to be a part of the generation of black women who ruined the future for black girls and women of tomorrow. Our future black women are going to suffer because they're being erased at a rapid pace all of because of these super mammies, joining forces with our oppressors.

When it's time to protest for Black Lives these same black women center black men's issues.

When it's time to march for women's right these same black women center everyone else's issues.

How did the super mammy become the representation of black women quickly? I'm not saying that black women back then weren't shouldering everyone else's burden, because mammy mode always existed, but the current super mammy is a foot and half worse than the one's of the past.

And many current black women will rage and go off on black women who speak about our issues in the same way black men, and non-black people do. So in other words we're doomed as black women.

Heck we might even become extinct, because the super mammies who have the greatest impact on everything decided to join forces with those who already oppress us and contribute to our erasure, which are black men, white people mainly white women, and non-black people.

That's why I had no interest in this women's march. It was centered around white women no matter how you slice it. The same white women who propped their white privilege over intersectionality with women of color.

I also have no interest in sisterhood with these black women who buck and dance for their oppressors so that they can get a pat on the head.

I rather let them ruin their own selves, and when they need help I'll be nowhere to lend a hand. Because as a womanists we tried, Lord knows we did.

But when they find out there's no reserved seat at the oppression table for those they're doing tricks for a Scooby Snack for, they're going to be sitting alone looking stupid, because we don't want them on our team either.

Black women, your mammying let your sisters down.

Friday, January 20, 2017

While half of America is marching and protesting, how many of these people are fighting for the rights of black women?

Who’s fighting for the rights of black women?
Dear America, why don’t you care about black women?
I’m talking to white America, non-black America, and black America.
Everyone’s creaming to the mountain tops at this moment.
Women’s rights!
Black rights!
Equality, this, equality that!
Racism is wrong, discrimination is wrong!
But how much of America will take to their computer or daily lives and continue to insult black women? Discriminate against black women? Berate black women?
A group that represents the victim of every type of discrimination.
Trans black women.
Muslim black women.
Single black mothers.
Fat black women.
Poor black women.
Black women sex workers.
Dark skin black women.
Black women who are victims of police brutality.
Black women who are victims of domestic violence or all types of violence.
Black women who fit the racist stereotypes society paints.
The list goes on, who’s actually within the streets fighting and marching for black women? Because I don’t see it. 
Every other day there’s some public berating of black women done by a celebrity or on social media by everyday people. Full of racism, colorism, or just flat out anti-black woman disparaging comments.
Not just from white people. But from other people of color and many people of the black community, my own community.
Even right now as I type I can click over and see people making discriminatory comments about black women. The same people I’m watching right now reiterate the importance of equality and people’s rights but yet somehow their activism is still not inclusive to black women.
Today, we care for women’s rights, black people’s rights, and so forth, but tomorrow and the week after, as a black woman I’ll be right back to being a bitch, a black bitch, a hoe, a thot, a ghetto black woman, a angry black woman, too loud, too masculine, any form of racist, misogynoiristic labels used to berate black women you can think of.
I’m looking around and seeing everyone marching and fighting but what about black women?
Black women are still marginalized and criminalized in America and even in our own communities. Who’s marching for black women? Because if people were, I’d be seeing change, but I don’t.